I am so sorry for your loss. My purrs and tears go out to you. There are a few on Catster and recently who have experienced similar situations and you can find them on the forums under Saying Goodbye: Memorials and Support. If you start a thread there you will be answered quickly by some really good people who can lend a shoulder.

Member 1017380 answered on 2/24/11. Helpful? / 1

We are sending you many thoughts and prayers and keeping you close in our hearts. If you are the person who posted previously with the cat whose injured pelvis was blocking his colon, I remember answering your question. I know you had the very best intentions with this baby and were going to do all you could for him. I'm sure the decision to euthanize was not made lightly. You are very brave for taking into account that Yuki's life would have been very difficult for both of you. Most of us on this site have had to make this decision and it never gets easier. Deciding to euthanize a young animal is extraordinarily more difficult. I was there years ago with a kitten with FIP and I'm still grieving for the little guy. Take your time to recover. Avoid people who will tell you it was "just" a cat. You can spend all the time you need to with us. Pawmail any of us at any time. We're here if you need us. We're sending much love and purrs.

Izadore (Izzie) answered on 2/25/11. Helpful? / 1

I'm so sorry for your loss. I think the most important thing you can do is to treat yourself with compassion and not blame yourself for what happened. (I don't know all the circumstances, but I think people often do this when they lose a pet.) Maybe you could make a donation to a local shelter in your cat's memory, and of course when you feel it's appropriate for you, consider adopting another cat from a shelter, saving another cat's life in honor of the one you lost. All our thoughts and prayers go out to you in your time of grief.

Sasha answered on 2/26/11. Helpful? / 0

So very sorry for your loss. We lost two very special cats in just a few mos. of each other last Sept. One from old age (19), and another which was only 15 mos from an allergic reaction from the rabies vaccine. She died within two weeks of the shot, I felt so guilty and mad at myself, I just wanted to blame someone. I wish I had this site to help me at the time. I found comfort in getting a kitten from the local shelter, didn't know if we were really ready for it at first, but it has been so right for my husband & I. Jasper has been such a joy for us both, and we can look out our window everyday and talk to the two we lost. Nothing can replace the ones we lost, all pets are so different in their own ways which is exactally what you'd want. The days will get better one day at a time, we still have our sad moments but we just give Jasper a big hug and it makes us feel so much better.

Jasper answered on 3/27/11. Helpful? / 0